iyi polis kötü polis

İyi polis kötü polisi oynayabilmek için minimum iki kişi gerekir. Dolayısıyla iki kişilik bir yönetimin tek kişilik bir yönetime karşı müthiş bir avantajı vardır.*

Tüm öğrenme süreçleri hem teşvik hem de tenkit gerektirir. Şımarıklığa yol açmamak için teşviğin tenkitle, ümitsizliğe yol açmamak içinse tenkitin teşvikle dengelenmesi şarttır. Teşvik eden kişinin aynı zamanda tenkit eden kişi olduğu durumlar kafa karışıklığı ve kredibilite kaybı doğurabileceği için iyi polis ve kötü polisin ayrı kişiler olması önemlidir.

Tek öğretmenli sınıflarda öğrenciler, tek ebeveynli ailelerde çocuklar, tek ortaklı şirketlerde çalışanlar komplikasyonlu bir öğrenim sürecinden geçerler.

* Genelde ikiden üçe geçmenin faydası birden ikiye geçmenin faydasından çok daha azdır. Mesela iki dil bilmenin bilişsel gelişime önemli katkıları vardır, fakat üç dil bilmenin çok da ek bir getirisi yoktur. Benzer şekilde, başka bir ülkede yaşamaya başladığınızda, akvaryumdan çıkmış gibi aydınlanır ve kendi kültürünüzü daha iyi tanırsınız. Üçüncü bir kültürel şok aynı etkiyi yaratmaz.

İlgili yazılar: Mystery of Two and Three, Two Opposite Lives

socialness, consciousness and smartness

Degree of Socialness

While humans can easily handle fourth-order intentionality chains like "I think that X thinks that Y thinks that Z thinks something", nonhuman primates seem to be capable of handling only first or second-order intentionality chains. This difference is thought to correspond to our greater social skills. (No wonder why “four” is often taken as an optimum number of active characters in any given movie scene. Spectators desire to be stimulated to the upper bound of their capabilities.)

The degree of mind-simulation capability determines the size of the Dunbar's number, which for humans is 150 and defined as the "cognitive limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships—relationships in which an individual knows who each person is and how each person relates to every other person."

Some people are apparently even capable of handling sixth-order intentionality chains. In other words, they are both physically and mentally six degrees away from any other person in the world. (i.e. They can mentally simulate their entire social network one-intentionality-chain at a time.)

Children start to demonstrate theory of mind at roughly around the same time that they start to recognise themselves in the mirror. “You have to be aware of yourself in the first place in order to begin to take into account what other people may know, want, or intend to do,” Gallup says. He notes that people with schizophrenia often cannot recognise themselves in the mirror, and they struggle with theory of mind as well.

What Do Animal See in a Mirror? - Chelsea Wald

We understand others via empathy which is the ability of put oneself in other's place. Hence, it is not surprising that you are able to recognise yourself in the mirror only once you are able to formulate first-order intentionality chains. (You are literally projecting yourself onto your reflection.)

In the time between the original Homo species and ourselves, the brain doubled in size. A disproportionate share of that growth occurred in the frontal lobe, and so it stands to reason that the frontal lobe is the location of some of the specific qualities that make humans human. What does this expanded structure do to enhance our survival ability to a degree that might have justified nature's favouring it? ...In addition to regions associated with motor movements, the frontal lobe contains a structure called prefrontal cortex. "Prefrontal" means, literally, "in front of the front" and that's where the prefrontal cortex sits, just behind the forehead. The prefrontal cortex is responsible for planning and orchestrating our thoughts and actions in accordance with our goals, integrating conscious thought, perception and emotion; it is thought to be the seat of our consciousness.

Subliminal - Leonard Mlodinow (Page 102-103)

The fact that the size of a species' neocortex as a percentage of its whole brain is correlated with the size of its social group implies that the relationship between self-consciousness and intentionality chains extends to higher orders too.

By the way, isn't it poetic that we feel a tender desire to touch our foreheads with the loved ones? We are literally trying to merge our consciousnesses!

 

Degree of Consciousness

Since consciousness is just a model of the brain itself (as pointed out in the previous blog post), we expect the volume reserved to consciousness (presumably the neocortex) to grow at the same rate as the volume of the whole brain (what is being modelled). Relative increases in the size of the neocortex as a percentage of the whole brain could be due to improvements in the fidelity of the models themselves. 

Hence, one could define "higher degree" of consciousness as any of the following equivalent statements:

  • Higher fidelity cognitive models

  • Less information being lost during the cognitive modelling processes

  • Higher number of nested past selves one can be cognisant of at any given moment in time

Armed with this definition, the conclusion of the previous section can be rephrased as follows: The more "copies" of ourselves available to us at any given moment in time, the deeper we can simulate other minds. In other words, conscientiousness and consciousness are in some sense the same thing.

 

Degree of Smartness

Remember the old blog post on empathy and truth?

There we claimed that empathy allows one to get closer to truth since understanding takes place through causal statements like "A -> B" and these statements can be internalised only by literally putting ourselves in places of whatever A and B are. In other words, mental simulation of inanimate phenomena uses the same principle as that of social phenomena.

The aim of science is not things themselves, as the dogmatists in their simplicity imagine, but the relations among things; outside these relations there is no reality knowable.

- Henri Poincare

What the great mathematician Poincare is saying here is that all understanding is relational. A and B literally have to be taken as black boxes. The only thing that we can probe is the relationship between them as depicted by the arrow sign "->". (Note that this is the essence of Category Theory.)

In some sense, the conscious self is the most canonical black box at our disposal. (We can not peek into the pronoun "I".) By projecting ourselves onto A, we temporarily replace A with "I" to gain an understanding of A's relationship with other objects.

Summing up, the degrees of all of the following are correlated via the notion of empathy:

  • Socialness - as defined by the experimentally-measurable maximum-length of intentionality chains one is capable of simulating

  • Consciousness - as defined by the experimentally-inaccessible maximum-number of nested past selves one can be cognisant of at any given moment in time

  • Smartness - as defined by the experimentally-measurable maximum-length of causality chains one is capable of simulating

time and healing

Time heals all wounds. However, just like one is sentenced to different lengths of time in prison depending on the crime committed, the time required for a wound to heal depends on the depth of the wound inflicted.

If someone really fucks you up, it takes a longer period of time for you to forgive that person. However, unlike the pact between an individual and society at large, a relationship between two individuals can not be put on hold forever.

The maximum amount of time a relationship can be put on hold depends on its current strength. If that maximum is shorter than the expected length of the healing period, we drop the relationship completely and write that person off.

facebook as a cultural hype

There are hypes of different periodicities. Cultural shifts are among the slowest. (Quantitative traders are well aware of the fractal nature of cycles.)

Mark Zuckerberg is a serious man. He does not like hype. He prefers utility over coolness.

General opinion is that Facebook owns "the social layer" and Mark is connecting the world. But this is complete bullshit for anyone who knows a little bit of sociology.


Facebook does not own the social layer. It is the social layer who owns Facebook.

Mark may detest coolness, but the early adopters of social platforms are always among the youngsters and the youngsters care a lot about coolness. In fact, Facebook owes its wildfire growth among university campuses to its cool beginnings.

Now the youngsters have shifted to other platforms and Mark is going crazy realising that he will not be able to buy all these platforms off. (Public markets serve an enormously important social role: For a company like Snapchat, going public is the only option for realising value for its investors without submitting itself to a greater behemoth.)

Youngsters disrupt the status quo set by their elders.  (It is their sociological role to do so.) They are catalysers of change. They challenge for the sake of challenging. They test which social structures deserve to survive by shaking them to their cores.

And make no mistake, Facebook will crumble too.


Mark is not connecting the world. It is the opposite. Mark is disconnecting the world by virtualising the already-existing real friendships. 

The very word "friend" has lost its meaning. We have become estranged from each other, turning into wanna-be celebrities broadcasting to our own friends and anxiously building fake images. We are now meeting up less often in the real world because we are meeting up more often in the virtual world.

Mark is riding a massive cultural wave and creating a positive feedback loop that is accelerating the death of this very wave. The hegemony of self-exhibitionist narcissistic openness will soon come to a halt. (Early adopters have already fled this trend.) The pendulum has shifted too much in the direction of openness and atomistic individualism. Now, along with the massive conservativeness wave in politics, it will shift back to reservedness and community-oriented holism.

True. The most tangible network is our friendship network. But that should not make you think that Facebook is built on better foundations than something like Twitter which is built on interest-based networks. In fact, the opposite is true: It is platforms like Twitter which serve a real need rather than Facebook.

Interest-based communities existed before Facebook and will continue to exist after Facebook. The true strength of the internet has lied in its ability bring out the long tail in everything. Thanks to the internet, a substantial number of people can gather around a very niche topic and buy stuff related to a very niche interest, stuff which would have never made it to the physical shelves due to the diffuse geographic distribution of the demand.

Soon people will realise that the only real value offered by Facebook lies in its ability to connect us to our long-lost friends, and Facebook will be used primarily as a catalogue of expired friendships and our long-lost friends will upgrade from a mass grave to a proper cemetery.

So Mark, why so serious? 

missing middle

When your first baby is born, you will feel an irresistible desire to immediately share the news. If you use social media, then you will share your baby's photo and let the ranking algorithms take care of the rest.

However, if you do not use social media, then the dissemination dynamics will be very different. Being unable to broadcast to your entire network, you will have to separately write to individual people. This in turn will cause an uneasy situation.

You will feel comfortable writing to both close friends and far away ones whom you have not seen for a very long time. After all having a baby is a good excuse to catch up with everybody. But it will feel very weird writing to friends who are neither too close nor too far away.


Similarly, it is easy to ask for money from your close friends and totally unknown strangers, but it feels very difficult to do so from semi-strangers.

anonymity and masks

Masks are simple instruments that transport us into different worlds. They help us temporarily get away from ourselves and our societal burdens. They are like pre-historic versions of virtual-reality glasses, exploiting the already-existing self-deceptive powers of the human mind.

Modern societies no longer wear masks to get in contact with the tribal spirits, but they nevertheless engage in a similar practice within the ever-evolving and ever-present social texture of the internet.

Usernames and profile photos help us assume different personas and achieve what is called pseudo-anonymity. In fact, internet offers even more. Some sites let you go completely invisible and express yourself in various forms fully-anonymously. (Of course, such a disappearance act is not possible in the physical world, even if everyone wears the same exact mask.)

Pseudo-anonymity and full-anonymity lead to very different behavioural outcomes.


Say you enter a masquerade ball where everyone is wearing a different mask. Since people can be distinguished from each other, they bear a reputational risk, just as in the real world. The only difference is that this particular risk lasts a controllable period of time since you always have the option to leave the ball. Of course, as you spend more time inside mingling with others and building up a profile, you have less of an incentive to reset everything by leaving and coming back with a different mask.

Surprisingly, inside such a pseudo-anonymous environment, people not only behave well but also act more like themselves. This is a very deep insight about human nature. Just reflect on it for a while.

Pseudonymous participation in forums is different in several ways from anonymous participation. Disqus.com, a commenting platform used to handle discussions on more than 1 million websites, analyzed the quantity and quality of comments from anonymous, pseudonymous, and named individuals. They defined quality as the number of “likes” and/or replies each type of comment gathered, as opposed to the number of flags, spam markers, and deletes that commenter received. Anonymous users provided the lowest quality comments, but it was pseudonymous rather than named users who provided the highest quality comments. Overall 61 percent of the pseudonymous comments were seen as positive, whereas 51 percent of those from people using their real names and only 34 percent of the anonymous comments possessed the positive quality attributes. 
- Evil by Design

Time seems to have a mystical effect on our relationship with society. Our real personality and expressed personality start to diverge the moment we start interacting with our new environment. It is as if we model the society in our minds and this model slowly takes over our relationship with the society and gradually causes us to become slaves of our own thoughts.

Our real face can be thought of as just another mask. Put in other words, once we wear a mask long enough, it literally becomes our face and the tragic cycle repeats itself: We once again desire to wear a mask to become our real selves.

In this sense, leaving and rejoining an online community can have a real therapeutic effect.

Unfortunately, in the real world, it is not possible to completely reset your already existing relationships. But what you can do is to leave your existing network entirely and try building a brand new one. (For instance, I have personally witnessed people reinventing themselves by moving abroad.)


Full anonymity can be outright dangerous. When we know that our mask is constantly changing or that we can not be seen at all, we do all sorts of weird, shameful stuff. (Is that why we invented God?) It is as if we lose our personality all together and return to this amorphous base human being.

For instance, in traffic, we can act like a maniac and suddenly cease to act like a maniac once we make an eye contact with the person we are quarrelling with.

In such instances, civilisation and its accompanying norms disappear along with us. We can harass, degrade, troll, even rape if given the opportunity. (Of course, in real life, we can not go invisible, but we can be in remote places where there are no gazers in sight.)


Summing up, although there is a subtle difference between wearing a mask and no mask, there is a huge difference between wearing a mask and being completely unidentifiable. One should keep this in mind while structuring online social environments.

babalar ve gölgeleri

Başarılı bir babanın yapabileceği en büyük kötülük çocuğunu kendi izinde gitmeye zorlamaktır. Statü göreceli bir kavramdır. Çocuklar ne kadar yol katetseler de, babalarını aşamadıkları sürece kendilerini başarısız hissederler. 

Büyük başarılar büyük egolardan doğar. Büyük egoya sahip bir baba da (kimseyi beğenmediği için) çocuğunun dışarı kaynaklardan beslenerek gelişmesini istemez. Fakat bu yaklaşım çocuğunun onu aşmasını daha da zorlaştırır. Bir insanın tek bilgi ve tecrübe kaynağını aşması imkansızdır.

Babanın birikiminin çöpe gitmemesini sağlayan en güzel çözüm çocuğun başka bir kulvarda koşmasıdır. Bu kulvar çocuğun kendisini babasıyla karşılaştıramayacağı kadar uzak mesafede, fakat babanın birikimini alakasız kılmayacak kadar da paralel doğrultuda olmalıdır.

Başka bir çözüm de babanın birikimlerini daha soyut bir düzeye taşımasıdır. Bilgi erdemselleştiği an paralel olmayan kulvarlara da transfer edilebilir hale gelir. Fakat başarılı babaların bir çoğu bu kapasiteye sahip değildir. (Yüksek ego ve erdemlilik genelde ters orantılıdır.)

beceriksizlik, inat, kibir

Kişiler arası karakter uyuşmazlıkları çeşitli vakalar üzerinden çatışmalar çıkartır. Toplum içinde yaşamanın ve insan olmanın birlikte getirdiği önlenemez bir gerçektir bu.

Uyarılarla karakter değişmez. Dolayısıyla çatışmaları çözmenin yolu onları tetikleyen vakaları iyi analiz edip, ileride bu tarz vakaların yaşanmaması için çabalamaktır. İlişki yönetimi denen şey de özünde budur.

Sürekli saçma vakalardan dolayı kriz yaşayan insanlar ilişki yönetimini beceremiyor demektir. Saçma vakalar doğaları gereği önlenebilirlerdir. Yönetim becerisi olmasına rağmen önlenememeleri inattan, önlenemeyenlerin derin çatışmalara yol açması ise kibirden kaynaklanır.

İlişkileri, önemli vakalardan doğan çatışmalar veya beceriksizlik-inat-kibir üçlüsü bitirir. Mükemmel uyumun peşinden koşmak ise romantik (ve aslında bencil) bir hayaldir.

my simple life algorithm

It took me a fantastically long amount of time to realize what I have really been doing with my life: I have just been trying to maximize my uniqueness.

All the important decisions I made were simply outputs of this algorithm. I have always worked on stuff that made maximal use of my strengths, knowledge, resources and network. In other words, I have always worked on things that few others would prefer or excel at.

Note that there is something dangerous lurking behind this desire to maximize one's uniqueness. It is sort of like a secular person's jealous approximation to the notion of being chosen. On the other hand, it is not an egotistical desire at all, since the entire exercise of identifying your uniqueness is done from a societal point of view. (We are all collectively better off when everyone realizes his or her own uniqueness.)

ses kalınlığı ve eş seçimi

Yanımda oturan kadının sesi ne kadar da kalındı! Sesiyle tanışmamdan sonra kucağındaki kediyi okşayan şevkat dolu elleri bile kaba görünmeye başlamıştı.

Lanet kedi bir başka yanılsamaya daha aracılık yapmıştı: Kadın yalnız değildi.

İşin şaşırtıcı yanı aramıza oturan yakışıklı adamın sesinin olağanüstü kalın olmasıydı. Adam o kadar bas sesliydi ki yarattığı ses dalgalarını deşifre etmekte zorlanıyordum.

Bu bir tesadüf olamazdı. Kadınlar kendilerinden daha kalın sesli erkekleri çekici buluyorlardı. En kalın sesli kadın bile bir şekilde kendisinden bir tık daha kalın sesli birini arayıp buluyordu.